“Never give in. Never give in. Never, never, never, never ~ in nothing great or small, large or petty ~ never give in except to convictions of honour and good sense. Never yield to force; never yield to the apparently overwhelming might of the enemy.”~ Winston Churchill
One of the main reasons that people fail to achieve their dreams once they start pursuing them, according to a variety of seminars I’ve attended, is that they give up too soon. They either underestimate the time it will take to achieve their goals or their ego gets in the way and they’re not willing to grow slowly. So they quit.
Following a dream is sometimes a rough undertaking. You have to expect obstacles from the start. If you know they’re coming, you won’t be thrown off-guard when they finally show up. And, most likely, they will show up. They’ll come in the form of: other people’s negative opinions, rejections, a bad decision you made, fear, lack of sales, lack of money, bad reviews, just to name a few.
It’s your job, as the dream follower, to face them head on, to not back down, to keep moving forward in the direction of your vision no matter what gets thrown at you. Many people get stuck when they hit opposition. They slow down, then stop. Finally, they give up. Here are some things I’ve run into, just to give you an idea:
- I’ve been rejected more than 100 times. I kept sending my work out; I just simply stopped counting after 100.
- There have been years ~ yes, you’re reading that right, years with an s ~ I made a grand total of $0 (yes, zero) from my fiction writing (so, yes, I still have a day job).
- In total, I’ve spent thousands more on my writing than I’ve actually made.
- I juggle a lot ~ working, taking care of my family, cooking nearly all the meals, cleaning the house, paying the bills, writing novels, reading, blogging, keeping my social networking sites updated, parenting my kids ~ and sometimes it’s just exhausting.
- I spend countless hours away from my family. Both of my children have asked me, at one point or another, when I’m going to be done writing so they can see me again.
- I’ve lost many, many hours of sleep because I started either working late into the night or getting up at some crazy early hour in the morning to minimize the time I miss with my kids.
- The traditional publishing route doesn’t seem open to me, so I changed my vision & am now an independent author.
Is it worth it? you might ask. Yes. Because, overall, I’m happy & I love what I’m doing.
If you know opposition is coming, if you mentally prepare for it, then it won’t sidetrack you when it finally shows up. If Winston Churchill had given up, we might all very well be speaking German right now. He didn’t, the tides of World War II turned, and Hitler was defeated. Churchill was facing down the Nazis. You’re just following a dream.
Do you believe persistence matters? Please feel free to share your thoughts & experiences in the comment box below.
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