My Favorite Writing Advice ~ Write Like A Mother****er

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Write like a mother****er.

Favorite writing advice:

“Write like a mother****er.”

Who said it:

Dear Sugar (Cheryl Strayed, author of Wild) at 


Well, this past summer I got burned out and stopped writing because my thinking also got into a funk. I thought: who cares, what difference does it make, it’s never going to be good enough, and on and on. Like most things, Strayed’s advice came into my life on a day when I needed to hear it most.

Strayed talks about the only thing that matters is getting your book written, getting it out of you. She talks about how, as a writer, you need to practice humility & surrender, you need to have resilience & faith. She talks about how the only place you can get any writing done is when you’re on an emotional neutral level: not up so high you think you’re fabulous & not down so low you think you’re terrible. She argues that you have to have strength & nerve; you have to be a warrior.

If you’re a writer (or anyone for that matter) struggling to write, please do something kind for yourself & read that advice.

How it changed my writing:

Well, sometimes you need a kick in the pants. That’s what Strayed’s advice did for me. I started writing again. I dragged my behind to the writing desk, sat down in my chair, and worked on my novel. I wrote humility on one Post-It Note & surrender on another. I printed out the whole essay. I tacked all of them up on a cork board on the wall of my writing room.

I decided to get to work on the story I wanted to tell because no one was going to come ask for it. I decided to do the work for myself. I decided to stop judging, comparing, complaining, worrying, & instead to simply write, write, write. Like a warrior.

So do you write like a mother****er (or warrior, if that word suits you better)? Please feel free to share your thoughts & experiences in the comment box below.

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