So this one goes along with a post I did on things I wish I’d known when I was 20. Sadly, I still tend to learn things the hard way. So, if I could talk some sense to my current self (maybe this time I’ll listen!), here are some things I’d say:
1. This too shall pass
Yeah, I know it doesn’t feel like it. It never feels like it when you’re right in the middle of it. But it’s not the end of the world. No matter what it is, eventually at some point, it will pass.
2. Tell the truth
To others, yes. But to yourself, too. Even if it scares you. Even if it hurts. Even if a little white lie or not saying anything at all would be so much easier. Tell the truth.
3. Stop looking backward
I know it’d be great if you could go back in time, then you could make different choices. I wish it were that easy, truly I do. But, sadly, you can’t. Nobody can. All you can do is learn (learn! learn!) from the mistakes you made, fix what you can, and move on.
4. Forgive yourself
Yep, sigh, you screwed up . . . again. You’re human so it happens. Sigh some more. And breathe. Don’t beat yourself up. Just forgive yourself, again and again.
5. In the end, kindness matters more than anything
I get that there’s career and family and friends and to-do lists and goals and dreams. But what matters most, really, is being kind. Kind to others, sure. Kind to yourself, too. Be kind to yourself. Remember that.
6. If it feels like a really bad choice, it probably is
Don’t make it. Enough said.
7. You can change your mind
Don’t think you can’t. You have that right. As many times as you want. There’s no limit. Don’t believe that you’re trapped in your answer. Just change your mind.
8. Check your motivation
Preferably BEFORE you do things. Otherwise, one word: Backfire. Be real clear about why you’re doing things so you can get the result you’re looking for.
9. Worrying serves no purpose
Other than to make you crazy. Quit it. Don’t let your mind create a reality you don’t want, which is about all worrying does. Remember what your husband keeps telling you: If it’s not happening right now, it’s not happening.
10. Be a victor, not a victim
A lot of times it’s just a matter of language. Change the wording and change your whole outlook. Empower yourself. Sometimes life hurts a whole heck of a lot. Learn from it. Grow stronger. Be victorious. And remember while you’re going through it: this too shall pass.
So what lessons are you *sigh* still learning? Please feel free to share your thoughts & experiences in the comment box below.