When Will You Conquer Your Fears?

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“Perhaps all the dragons in our lives are princesses who are only waiting to see us act, just once, with beauty and courage. Perhaps everything that frightens us is, in its deepest essence, something helpless that wants our love.” ~ Rainer Maria Rilke, Letters To A Young Poet

Fear’s a tough one.

I’ve written about fear before: how it’s the #1 reason people don’t follow their dreams, how it can make you lose focus, how you can’t have the life you want without risk.

The biggest regrets in my life come from when I chose fear (& backed down) instead of choosing faith (& moving forward). I don’t think fear ever goes away. Sometimes it’s not as strong (just nervous) & sometimes it’s overwhelming (sheer terror). But I think whenever you get out of your comfort zone, fear crops up.

Overcoming fear

Faith is walking through fear, baby steps and holding your breath if you have to, but walking and moving forward nonetheless.

I had a high-school teacher who told the class that we should aggressively pursue things that scare us. I was a teenager at the time. I thought he was nuts. Why scare myself unnecessarily? Turns out, he was right. Want to watch yourself grow by leaps and bounds? Face your fears with beauty and courage, keep moving through them then conquer them, & you’ll see just how capable and strong you really are.

“And now let us believe in a long year that is given to us, new, untouched, full of things that have never been.” ~ Rainer Maria Rilke

What will you resolve?

So here’s my New Year’s resolution, the only one I’m going to make: This coming year, the one that’s new and untouched and full of things that have never been, I’m going to keep moving forward, I’m going to choose faith over fear every single time, I’m going to show myself just how much beauty and courage I truly have.

I hope you’ll do the same.

What are you most afraid of? And will you resolve (read: promise) to do it this new year? Please feel free to share your thoughts & experiences in the comment box below.

6 Responses to "When Will You Conquer Your Fears?"
  1. Hi Shelli,
    Thanks for identifying and providing an answer to one of our most common reasons for failure 😀
    You’ve nailed the solution. Everyone faces fears. Those who succeed overcome. I’m glad you pointed out that faith in our ability is the key to overcoming.
    We all need to face up to our fears, believe in ourselves and choose courage over retreat!
    Cheers! 😀

    • Hi Rich!

      Fear really is one of the toughest things to face, usually because we don’t know what the outcome will be before we start. That’s where the faith part comes in. Baby steps really will get you to wherever you need to be. 🙂

      Cheers, my friend, and Happy New Year!

  2. Hi, Shelli. Thanks for sharing this. I’m sure I will contemplate quitting several times in the coming year, and will need to recall your advice and positive thinking. Keep moving forward, indeed!
    Happy New Year to you and yours, my friend.


    • Hi Jimmy! *waves*

      You are welcome. I wrote it to remind myself, too, when I contemplate quitting because there are some days when I’d just rather throw in the towel. 🙂 Thanks for the good wishes. Happy New Year to you, too! Cheers!

  3. Hi, Shelli! 🙂

    Hope you had a great Christmas and New Years.

    Your resolution is a good one…because it is one of the hardest things for people to overcome. And I think it’s always good to work at getting past the things that scare us…usually.

    My biggest fears usually involve things I have no control over…the way the world is, letting go so my kids can learn to be independent…without my nagging voice reminding them to be careful. There are others…heights, snakes, etc… that I’m TOTALLY comfortable being afraid of – and I will never work at overcoming them. Those would fall into the sheer terror category you mentioned, and I’ve resigned myself to just being afraid of them for life. Yes, as far as things like that go, I proudly proclaim that I’m a coward. 🙂

    What have I resolved to do this year? Three main things…

    To schedule some things throughout the year that make me anticipate them as much as I looked forward to things when I was a kid. Not extravagant things, just things I can work up some ‘kid enthusiasm’ for.

    To be more disciplined in my writing goals so I can be more productive this year. I have way too many stories floating around in my head, and I need to get them on paper (okay, so they’re in a file because I’d forget if I didn’t write them down).

    And, finally, to be more diligent about keeping gluten out of my life. I feel SO much better when I do. It’s just going to mean being more creative in the kitchen because….gluten-free bread products are… Okay, I can’t describe them without bringing language that isn’t G-rated into it, so I’ll be good and leave it at that. I just know I have an allergy, and it’s time to grow up and stop letting a slice of bread or a slice of ‘real’ pizza set me on the wrong path for a couple of weeks. Or longer. 😉

    • Hi Kristy! *waves wildly then gives you a hug*

      I did have a great Christmas & New Year’s, thanks. I hope you did, too.

      You know, I’m still learning to let go of the fear about things I have no control over ~ the older I get, the more I realize that worrying & being afraid of something I can do very little/nothing about is a waste of my time. I will agree that there are some things that people SHOULD be afraid of (snakes being one of them) or at least have a healthy respect for so they don’t end up getting hurt. I proudly proclaim I’m a coward when it comes to heights, still. I even jumped out of a plane once to make myself not be scared. Awesome experience. But I’m still scared of heights. 🙂

      I love your resolutions, especially the kid enthusiasm part. I just started a life list (more about that in an upcoming post) about all the things I want to do while I’m still alive and kicking. Most of the things on that list make me feel excited, like a kid getting to try something new.

      Your gluten-free bread taste comment (no G-rated language) made me laugh. I was allergic to milk for a long time; let me tell you, there’s nothing except bad language to describe the nasty taste of plain rice/soy/almond milk. 😀

      Cheers, darlin.

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