The Wrong Question Is Why, The Right Question Is What

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Here’s something I learned the hard way. I’m passing it along so (hopefully) you can learn it the easy way.

Why is the wrong question:

  • Why did that have to happen?
  • Why me?
  • Why now?
  • Why [fill in the blank]?

Fixating on why keeps you stuck, waiting for an answer. And even if you get an answer, it won’t necessarily make anything better at all. And all that time you’re waiting to understand why is all that time that you’re not moving forward in your life. Why closes you off & blocks good things from coming into your life. I know this from personal experience. It doesn’t matter why some awful thing happened (unless it helps make it not happen again) or why you didn’t get what you wanted. What matters is . . .


  • What do I do now to move past this?
  • What can I do to fix it?
  • What can I learn from this so I can move on?
  • What can I do better next time?

What opens you up to new possibilities, new answers, new directions. Asking what gets you moving, and action, IMO, is the only way to get unstuck.

Life happens to all of us

Next time it happens to you and throws you a curveball you didn’t see coming, ask what instead of why. It’s a practice & I’m still learning. I’ve had to remind myself to ask what instead of why over and over and over again. But I’ve been amazed at how quickly I’ve been able to move myself past what happened and forward into a much, much better place.

Have you started your Life List yet?

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