Me, nowSo this one goes along with a post I did on things I wish I’d known when I was 20. I’m still learning things. Sadly, I tend to learn things the hard way. So, if I could talk some sense to my current self (maybe this time I’ll listen!), here are some things I’d say:
1. This too shall pass
Yeah, I know it doesn’t feel like it. It never feels like it when you’re right in the middle of it. But it’s not the end of the world. No matter what it is, eventually at some point, it will pass.
2. Tell the truth
To others, yes. But to yourself, too. Even if it scares you. Even if it hurts. Even if a little white lie or not saying anything at all would be so much easier. Tell the truth.
3. Stop looking backward
I know it’d be great if you could go back in time, then you could make different choices. I wish it were that easy, truly I do. But, sadly, you can’t. Nobody can. All you can do is learn (learn! learn!) from the mistakes you made, fix what you can, and move on.
4. Forgive yourself
Yep, sigh, you screwed up . . . again. You’re human so it happens. Sigh some more. And breathe. Don’t beat yourself up. Just forgive yourself, again and again.
5. In the end, kindness matters more than anything
I get that there’s career and family and friends and to-do lists and goals and dreams. But what matters most, really, is being kind. Kind to others, sure. Kind to yourself, too. Be kind to yourself. Remember that.
6. If it feels like a really bad choice, it probably is
Don’t make it. Enough said.
7. You can change your mind
Don’t think you can’t. You have that right. As many times as you want. There’s no limit. Don’t believe that you’re trapped in your answer. Just change your mind.
8. Check your motivation
Preferably BEFORE you do things. Otherwise, one word: Backfire. Be real clear about why you’re doing things so you can get the result you’re looking for.
9. Worrying serves no purpose
Other than to make you crazy. Quit it. Don’t let your mind create a reality you don’t want, which is about all worrying does. Remember: If it’s not happening right now, it’s not happening.
10. Be a victor, not a victim
A lot of times it’s just a matter of language. Change the wording and change your whole outlook. Empower yourself. Sometimes life hurts a whole heck of a lot. Learn from it. Grow stronger. Be victorious. And remember while you’re going through it: this too shall pass.
So what lessons are you *sigh* still learning? Please feel free to share your thoughts & experiences in the comment box below.
Sometimes the pain you think you feel are really only ‘thoughts’. ;o) As long as you learn from your mistakes, you’ll be good. I read something recently that said you never make the same mistake twice. The second time, its a choice. ;o)
And always remember, if you’re dreams don’t scare the heck out of you, they’re not big enough!
Great post Shelli!
Hugs,
Suzan
Hi Suzan! *waves*
Thanks so much for the fab compliment & for adding to the list. I love your advice, especially about your dreams being big enough. *Hugs* right back.
Cheers, darlin.
This is an excellent blog. Everything you’ve said is true and is something we all need to concentrate on. Thanks.
Hi Julia!
Thanks so much for the fabulous compliment. Made me smile. 🙂 Yes, sigh, we’re all still learning. 😀
Hi Shelli,
Thank you for sharing another provocative article. In my opinion the points you make here have equal impact whether in personal or business situations.
Good work, thanks for sharing 🙂
Rich
Hi Rich! *waves wildly*
I’m with you in applying these things to your business life, too. As always, it’s lovely to see you on my blog. 🙂
Hi Shelli! *Waving Back*
Having the privilege to comment on your blog is my pleasure 🙂
Awww, *hugs* for you!
Such a great post, Shelli! I think we all need periodic reminders of these things. They’re really actually affirmations, not just “lessons”. Affirmations need to be put in front of us many times throughout out lives. I think of them as little gifts of positive energy that boosts our rockets when we really need it. Know what I mean? FAB list!
Hi lovely Samantha!
I love this: “they’re really actually affirmations . . . little gifts of positive energy that boosts our rockets when we really need it.” That’s a fantastic way to look at them. I know sometimes people see lists like this & think of all the stuff they’re not doing instead of looking at it like a little series of affirmations to nudge them in the right direction. Thanks so much for putting it in that light.
Cheers, darlin.
I need to print this blog and stick it on my cork board next to my desk so that I don’t forget these valuable lessons. Have you heard of Carolyn Myss? I’ve been listening to her CDs and she has the same message. Thanks!
Hi Frances! *waves*
Thanks so much for the fab compliment. Made me smile. 🙂 Yes, I’ve heard of Carolyn Myss. She’s got a great book called Anatomy of the Spirit that I really enjoyed reading. Cheers, darlin.
Those are well-said great tips. I could really relate 🙂
Hi Arianne! *waves*
Thanks for the fab compliment. Made me smile this morning. 🙂 Glad you could relate. Cheers, darlin.
This one should read “Ten Things I’m Still (Sigh) Learning and Don’t Hate Me Because I Still Look 20”. truly!
Hi Amy!
Not only are you fabulous but also awesome, lovely, and kind. Thanks for the fab compliment. Made me smile this evening. Cheers, darlin.